Old-fashioned dating: were our grandparents onto something?
I want to first start off by saying that I am not fully against online dating nor am I only in support of old-fashioned dating. When it comes down to it for me, love is love. It is one of the greatest things people can ever get the privilege to experience in this life. With that being said, I am a firm believer in the old-fashioned way of dating. The notion of actually bumping into someone and saying hello, having the courage to getting to know someone through face-to-face conversations rather than through an electronic screen is something that is dying.
In today’s rapidly changing society, it is becoming so normal to favorite a tweet or like an Instagram picture of your crush. To “slide into the dm’s” is a saying that completely and utterly makes me cringe every time I hear it. To everyone who doesn’t know what that means, it is sending a stranger but someone you find attractive a message on social media. It has turned into a national saying, where songs have been made about the saying. Honestly it may sound rude, but it disgusts me. I guess I am just old-fashioned in the way I think us guys should go about dating.
A girlfriend should never just be a fling. When a guy asks a girl out, he should have the intention to treat her in the best possible manner. I feel that in today’s day and age, everyone is judged through a screen. People can swipe left or X out a face without thinking twice about it. The thing is that each one of those people is someone; they have a personality and may even be someone you could really get to like and you might have a lot in common. Yet no one takes the time to give that a chance because everything is so fast-paced.
I believe that we should slow down get back to good old-fashioned dating—the way our grandparents and parents met. This may that be the rambling of a hopeless romantic, but I believe in the love that exists in movies, they way a man will approach a girl out of the blue, put it all on the line and risk rejection, but it’s face to face and it’s pure.
We need to stop hiding behind our phones and computers and step out of our comfort zone and to put something on the line and not be afraid of what may come. You can really surprise yourself and learn something you may never have known.
When two people meet and speak face-to-face, they are able to connect and get to know each other better than through the lines of a text message. You get to know someone based on their personality rather than just their appearance and can therefore connect on a deeper level.